Comments for Tomorrow Looks Good...drug free! http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog If we’re going to help kids stay off drugs, we’ve got to help them connect to a noble purpose bigger than themselves. Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:30:30 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 Comment on Welcome. Let’s talk! by Vallerie http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=6&cpage=1#comment-11 Vallerie Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:30:30 +0000 http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=6#comment-11 Interesting to know. Interesting to know.

]]> Comment on The mirror our kids look in… by Norman http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3&cpage=1#comment-10 Norman Mon, 15 Sep 2008 17:33:42 +0000 http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3#comment-10 Maybe you should have them read the article on this web sight titled Respect and Pickles. It is the best one I read. Norm Maybe you should have them read the article on this web sight titled Respect and Pickles. It is the best one I read. Norm

]]> Comment on The mirror our kids look in… by Ann S http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3&cpage=1#comment-9 Ann S Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:43:30 +0000 http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3#comment-9 Appreciate the discussion regarding "The mirror our kids look in..." How, as a grandparent, can I help my adult children recognize how frightening and damaging the tone and decimal level of their voices can be when disciplining their 5 1/2 year old daughter. Two weeks into her kindergarten experience she is afraid to go to school because she thinks mommy and daddy are 'mad' at her and won't pick her up after school. Won't this child either obey or disobey out of fear, not respect or love? Appreciate the discussion regarding “The mirror our kids look in…”
How, as a grandparent, can I help my adult children recognize how frightening and damaging the tone and decimal level of their voices can be when disciplining their 5 1/2 year old daughter. Two weeks into her kindergarten experience she is afraid to go to school because she thinks mommy and daddy are ‘mad’ at her and won’t pick her up after school. Won’t this child either obey or disobey out of fear, not respect or love?

]]> Comment on The mirror our kids look in… by Norman http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3&cpage=1#comment-8 Norman Fri, 01 Aug 2008 16:50:35 +0000 http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3#comment-8 We'll read about little Charlotte again when she's 15. She will have beat up her parents, or worse, and ran away from home. Every one will say, I wonder what prompted that. We’ll read about little Charlotte again when she’s 15. She will have beat up her parents, or worse, and ran away from home. Every one will say, I wonder what prompted that.

]]> Comment on The mirror our kids look in… by Nancy Canwell http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3&cpage=1#comment-3 Nancy Canwell Wed, 16 Jul 2008 00:18:16 +0000 http://tomorrowlooksgood.com/blog/?p=3#comment-3 I've faced this situation several times myself, and my heart always aches for the child. I've tried confronting the verbally abusive parent in an adult, respectful way, but it always turns out a negative confrontation on his or her part. A few years ago, I asked a friend of mine who is a family counselor and child specialist what should be done in these cases. Her answer surprised me: "Don't criticize the parent's behavior," she said, "but complement them on their child." She encouraged me to say something positive like, "What an adorable baby," or "Your little boy may be full of energy but I bet he's great at sports," or "Your daughter's beautiful smile reminds me of when my child was young." Well, I've tried this, and it works every time. Somehow, through these compliments, parents are able to see their child through the eyes of another and can then appreciate rather than demean their child. Give it a try and see if it works for you! I’ve faced this situation several times myself, and my heart always aches for the child. I’ve tried confronting the verbally abusive parent in an adult, respectful way, but it always turns out a negative confrontation on his or her part.

A few years ago, I asked a friend of mine who is a family counselor and child specialist what should be done in these cases. Her answer surprised me: “Don’t criticize the parent’s behavior,” she said, “but complement them on their child.” She encouraged me to say something positive like, “What an adorable baby,” or “Your little boy may be full of energy but I bet he’s great at sports,” or “Your daughter’s beautiful smile reminds me of when my child was young.”

Well, I’ve tried this, and it works every time. Somehow, through these compliments, parents are able to see their child through the eyes of another and can then appreciate rather than demean their child.

Give it a try and see if it works for you!

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